Matt,
I’m glad you found this site. I felt the exact same way before my procedure and this site has been a blessing. I’m happy to contribute and help others along as best I can.
Bulbar appears to be the most common type. Similarly, the complications are fewer (especially with an experienced surgeon). Seeing as you’ve had two failed DVIUs, the Urethroplasty would seem like the correct option here. I personally think 3 weeks with the cath is too long, but I don’t know the entire situation.
I did indeed watch as many as I could find (and hesitated to watch it for a while as well). To be fair, I don’t have a great stomach for any type of surgery movies, so it was a bit queezy for me. But it helped me understand what was going to happen. I’ve also read just about every story of the operation I can find on the interwebs. It took me the better part of a year to be not 100% freaked out by it. In the end, it was the only long term option.
Stay strong and soon it will be in the rear view!