Hey, I had the buccal urethroplasty almost three years ago. it’s been a gradual decrease since six months afterwards. I miss the time when I didn’t hesitate to pee, when it was a “non-event” as you write. It is an event again, and a seemingly more and more disruptive event every day. I think this surgery just does not work. Maybe the end-to-end one works fine, but the buccal replacement certainly does not. Luckily we know people have been suffering from this for as long as we can remember. I take solace in the fact that others have endured it before. Despite the fact there are more treatment options now, the incidence of urethral stricture has actually gone up since the industrial revolution despite the treatment of illnesses causing it has gone down. Now everyone gets them from saddle injury or improper catheterization instead of infection. This is our burden to carry. No doctor can tell you otherwise, because their methods don’t work. A better solution would be to look to history for role models. Epicurus had one and he revolutionized philosophy and taught a way of living focused on small pleasures and the reduction of pain. He killed himself when he couldn’t pass urine after getting kidney stones at 72, but he also thought death was nothing to be afraid of. Think of ourselves as brave and stop worrying about the results. It’s only one life to live.